Relationships Begin and End with You
Consider that you’re in a relationshipwith everyone–from your banker to your lover and everyone in-between.Relationshipscan be uplifting or debilitating. How you experiencerelationships depends on how YOU interact with others. Every interactioncounts.
Experiment.Anattitude of gratitude. How do you relate to customer service representatives?Do you honestly believe theperson at the phone company intentionally made anerror on your bill? Are you condescending? Are you confrontational? Or,are youcourteous? I’ve noticed that the more loving, friendly, and compassionate I amto the person, the more they respond inkind.
So, try interacting with everyone theway you would like to be treated, and notice the difference.
Experiment.Youget what you give. My mom and dad were married and had four children. My fathermoved out when I was11. He subsequently remarried and had three more children.
Every month I would call my father tofeel like I was part of his life. On the call, he would mostly report howthings were goingwith HIM. He would also share about all the fun activities hewas doing with his new family. I felt envious to have missed out onhaving thatkind of fun with him. I also felt unimportant since he rarely inquired abouthow things were going with me.
What was missing for me wasacknowledgment. I wanted to know that I still mattered to him. So,I started acknowledging himfor beingsuch a great father and how fortunate his other three children were to have somuch fun with him.
Withintwo phone calls, there was an amazing transformation. My father started askingabout what was important tome and my career. He began telling me how importantI was to him. He also acknowledged me for the difference I made in thelives ofmy clients. This was something he had never done before. So, by giving my dad acknowledgement,I experienced the verything I thought was missing.
So, try to identify what’s “missing” ina specific relationship. Then, start giving it generously to that person andnotice howquickly you experience what you thought was missing.
Lovingly Submitted,
Victoria Benoit, M.C.
Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of:
What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life
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